Your 20s aren’t the “best years of your life” — they’re messy, challenging, and full of confusion. But that’s okay. It’s all part of the journey.
Your 20s are a time of transformation, filled with ups, downs, and identity crises. In the middle of all this, the hardest truth I’ve learned is that there’s no "right way" to live. Social media often shows only the highlight reel: friends traveling, getting engaged, succeeding in careers. It’s easy to fall into FOMO and wonder, Am I doing something wrong?
But there’s no need to compare. What works for someone else might not work for you—and that’s perfectly fine. It’s not about getting it right, it’s about figuring out what works for you. And the only way to do that is through action.
Say yes to everything
In a world that’s constantly pushing us to meet deadlines and follow rigid timelines, it’s easy to feel pressured to have everything figured out. But here’s the thing, waiting for the perfect moment means missing out on so many opportunities. Instead of getting stuck in the cycle of overthinking or waiting for the perfect time, take the step. Let your actions guide you, because even the smallest step can open up a whole new world of possibilities.
Life is full of those spontaneous moments that can change everything—a last-minute trip, an unexpected conversation, or a new adventure. Those small decisions can shift your perspective and lead you to places you never expected. So, don’t hold back. Say yes, and see where the journey takes you.
Let go of relationships that hold you back.
Not every relationship is meant to last. Sometimes, people grow in different directions, and that’s okay. Letting go of someone you thought would always be there can be tough, but holding onto relationships that no longer serve you prevents you from growing. If their presence holds you back from becoming who you’re meant to be, it’s time to step away.
True growth happens when you surround yourself with people who celebrate your evolution, not fear it. The most rewarding relationships are the ones that allow you to evolve, make mistakes, and become a better version of yourself.
Stop viewing your age as a gauge for how “young” you are.
Some of the most vibrant people I know are 60+ years old. Age is just a number—it’s how you nurture your body, mind, and spirit that matters. Being younger doesn’t make you any less capable. Don’t let anyone undermine your worth because of your lack of experience. Every generation has something valuable to contribute, and you have just as much to offer.
True youth isn’t about age; it’s about mindset. Whether you're 20 or 70, you're never too old to grow, learn, and pursue what excites you. Your age doesn’t define you—how you live does.
Create space to get lost.
What’s worse than trying and failing? Never trying at all. You’ll never know if something is meant for you unless you give it a real chance. Whether it’s a new job, a new city, or a new experience. Throw yourself into it and don’t hold back. If it doesn’t work out, then it’s not meant for you and you’ll walk away knowing you gave it everything. Your 20s aren’t about having it all figured out, they’re about exploring what calls to you and discovering what fits.
So, say yes to things you’d never normally consider. Go to the library, pick up a random book, talk to a stranger. Get lost, and in the process, you’ll find exactly what you need.
Take the leap. Trust the journey. And remember, you don’t have to have it all figured out right now. Just take one step at a time
— From a 22-year-old who's embracing losing herself to finding herself.